Hey There

Greetings to anyone out there searching for these particular ingredients!  I have not written for awhile.  I will not offer any explanations except that I am slack, old-ish and tired.  However, if you are looking for any further recipes (pound cake, banana bread, potato tot casserole…), or pictures of cute kittens,  I invite you to check out some of my previous posts (the previous post button is found at the bottom).  I only post my favorite-tried- and- true.

My Qualifications

I love to eat!  That’s about it ..plus I have been coached by some of the finest southern ladies and again, I’m old-ish, as stated earlier,  and have been doing this for awhile.  I frequently make gravy and biscuits and such.   I also like my veggies (mostly covered in butter and have done some experimentation on my own.  Where possible,  I will suggest possible substitutions for the more **healthier- minded.  This latest recipe satisfies my love of peppers.  This meal is pleasing to the eye as well as the pallet.  Hope you enjoy.

**For those really smart, health-minded folks, I’d like to suggest another site to visit: www.ronazway.com

This neat lady offers great food and fitness tips to offset my debauchery   Check it out.  She’s great!

Chicken and Peppers Stir Fry

Ingredients:

• 5 thin chicken breasts, marinated in Italian dressing (you can purchase these pre-packaged,  at most food stores)
• Butter (or Olive oil)
• Canola oil, about two tablespoons
• 1 large red pepper, cut in strips
• 1 large green pepper, cut in strips
• 1 large yellow pepper, cut in strips
• 1 large onion (I use yellow or sweet), also cut in strips
• soy sauce (1/3 to 1/2 cup)
• chopped garlic (2 Tablespoons)
• 1 1/2 – 2 cups un-cooked brown rice, cooked per instruction on the bag

Instructions:

In a large frying pan, pour enough Canola oil to coat pan.  Turn on medium high heat.  Add chicken breasts with Italian marinade.  Brown on both sides and then add about 1/2 cup of water, turn to medium heat, cover and cook till done. turning once (about 10-15 minutes each side).

In a separate pan, add two tablespoons butter and heat on medium setting.  Once butter is melted, add onions, garlic and peppers.  Stir to coat all ingredients (add more butter/olive oil, if needed or desired).  Add soy sauce and continue to stir and cook until peppers and onions are tender but still a little firm.  Turn off heat and set aside.

Take chicken out of first pan, put on cutting board, and cut into strips  Add chicken strips back into original pan.  Pour pepper and onion mixture (and all the butter and soy sauce) into the chicken pan and heat, stirring on medium heat.  At this point, test for taste and add any more butter or soy sauce,  if desired.  Serve over brown rice.  Enjoy!

No Saint

I’m no saint… no really. (No shit(!), I hear some of you mutter )  And it is true; I’m not.  I can be very nice. But sometimes I can be a jerk.  But this is the point I am trying to make:  It doesn’t take a saint to be a caregiver.  And actually, it probably helps if you are not so perfect.

Training can be good

I became an official caregiver about twenty years ago, through a program at my church called  the “Stephen Ministry”.  I was drawn to it because it offered a way to help people on a one-to-one basis.  I had tried other groups at church, but found my niche and purpose in this ministry.  I found I was especially drawn to, and suited for, the care  of  sick or dying people.  (Honestly, I really AM a fun person!)

It may seem strange to you that training  could be helpful with this endeavor.  You would think that this kind of care would come naturally.  But as I completed the training, I began to realize that there are things we do, and cliches we utter to people, that are exactly wrong.  And unless you have been in the same situation as that person, you may not realize this.

This training can also help when dealing with friends and family who are hurting.  But it can be harder to keep an objective perspective when caring for a loved one.

Going  solo?

Of course, you may be thrown into a care giving situation when someone close to you becomes sick or develops a crisis.  However, though you may become the main caregiver overnight, you should consider help in many cases.

In the case of a short-term illness, yes, you may be able to handle this on your own.  But if you are faced with long-term illness or worse, terminal illness, you should try to get some help.  This could be in the form of someone sitting with your loved one while you get out of the house for awhile.  Or someone offering to bring food or run errands for you.

Options

There are several options for the “drafted” care-giver.  If you are a member of a church, sometimes you can find help there.  Ladies’ circles, Stephen ministry and members in general, are good sources of help.  Hospice can be a good source of support and I have met many people who have really appreciated their services.  Of course, some of the best help you can get is from willing friends.  But, remember this: It is wonderful when they see a need and offer to help, but don’t hesitate to ask for it – specifically.   Many people feel helpless when it comes to knowing how to help.  Tell them what you need.  You may be surprised how pleased your friends would be to have the opportunity to help out.  (They are your friends, after all.)

Some Simple Guidelines

Mostly your familiarity with the hurting person, along with good common sense should govern your care-giving actions.  However, there are some solid rules that should apply for strangers, as well as for those close to you.

1. Do not show judgment….about past actions that may have led to the crisis or about feelings that a person may experience. (eg. a person may be responsible for the situation that they are in (like smoking all their life).  They know this already – they don’t need you to remind them of this.  Or they may be angry at God.  This is very common.  Sometimes people need to express this anger to get past it.  Your job is to LISTEN, not to judge.  (And I do believe that God can take it and expects us to be honest in our communication/prayer with Him)
2. Show discretion and do not inquire about how someone developed a disease, or what may have led to a divorce.  If they want you to know, they will tell you.
3. Don’t try to “outdo” the hurting person’s suffering by recounting similar events in your life.  Remember, you are there to help them.  You are not there to diminish their feelings or suffering.
4. Most importantly, if someone asks you to keep a confidence…do so.  If someone trusts you enough to share their feelings with you, do not disappoint them.

From the Other Side

Being a care-giver can be hard at times.  But mostly, I have found it to be rewarding.  Usually I find that I receive much more than I give.  And all the people whom I have helped have been very grateful…I know this because they have told me so.  But I also know this because I have been on the receiving end.

As I mentioned in my first post, I was a two time liver recipient back in 2005.   At that time, my husband took excellent care of me.  Though I can never repay him for that kindness, hopefully, I can try to pass it on.

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I usually try to end my blog with a recipe, so here is one that is simple and delicious.

Cooked Apples

• Water with a few squirts of lemon
• 5 – 6  Golden Delicious apples
• 2 – 3 teaspoons butter
• sugar, to taste

1. Pour a good amount of water into a large frying pan.
2. Squirt some lemon juice into it. (keeps apples from turning brown and adds a nice tang)
3. Pare, core and then slice apples into the water/lemon mixture.
4. When finished, pour off most of the water, leaving just a slight amount to “fry” apples.
5. Cook apples over medium heat, until they begin to get a translucent look and become tender. (most of remaining water should have steamed off by now)
6. Add butter and mix well to coat apples.
7. While mixing, add sugar to the desired sweetness.
8. Turn off heat and serve.  Enjoy!!